It was 3pm already!
I couldn’t wait to be home
Home… Two kids and a loving husband
A loving husband

I moved the files from my table
I was going home to give my husband a treat
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I looked at him again… He looked away. The message was clear, we were helplessly sprung – in love.

He was in a relationship with a girl I barely saw any good in. But that wasn’t even the issue. The problem now was he walking out of the relationship.

“You see… It’s not that I don’t care, but… I just can’t jilt her… She hasn’t hurt me” he started.

That’s the very same thing he’d been saying since we found out we had a thing for each other. I batted my lashes fast to stop the tears from coming Read the rest of this entry »

Hi everyone! Pandie here! Apparently, I’m going to be your host on heart to heart issues every Mondays and Fridays! Great right? Well, all you need do is make proper use of the comment box as your views to certain topics are valued! This segment promises to be exciting! It even comes in two packages! The posts on Mondays are interactive while those on Friday are more on advising. How cool can that get? You’ll never know if you miss out! Sandie Pandie here, or just Pandie Read the rest of this entry »

Have you ever had an ex that just won’t give up? or have you been the ex that just won’t let go? life is too short for you to hold on to moments that are dead and gone. i have seen a lot of people, women especially, holding on to relationships that are destined to be lessons and not forever. when i mean lessons i mean, the relationship was only to teach you what not to do in your next. sometimes we underestimate the power we have and what we are worth and we hang on to things that seem great but aren’t in its entirety.

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Although it is common knowledge that some women are gold-diggers, there are so many men too who will stoop low enough to be a kept-man. Money is very important in life, noted, but the love of this money drives most to the edge of the world. If sexing and acting like you are in love is going to get you this money, might as well right. Do not confuse gold-digging and wanting to live a comfortable life. A gold-digger is never satisfied money wise but someone seeking a comfortable life will be good if his/her needs can be met and some wants as well. Now here are five ways to spot the female gold-diggers and five to spot the male.

Female
1. If you give her money to buy credit, she will buy the credit then flash you to call her back. now this is a scavenger…
2. She goes shopping and she sees a shirt you may like, she comes home and gets money from you to buy it. i’m betting that’s how you get your birthday gifts too…shame.
3.Lose your job and see how fast she remembers she isn’t looking for a serious relationship, at least not yet.
4. She brings her friends out with her anytime you ask her for a date. this is her trying to show off her “rich” boyfriend.
5. She always asks for money after sex. i mean this is the most obvious but the most effective gold digging method. it works….

Male
1. He has a fantastic job yet he needs money for another job.
2. After you get paid, he is always sad and his sadness is money problem. that’s when you see the sulking face.
3.He knows you have money so most of his discussions is how he wishes he had money to help you, and how there are no jobs, and how he needs money, how money is his only solution, how lack of money has ruined his life, shall i continue?
4. Some guys really need this money and make it useful for them, but when you give them this money and they spend it on friends and other girls it’s because they know you will always give them. now this is called “alapa stainless”…
5. He’s broke yet all he wears are designer clothes, he feels like a stud, talks about how good he is in the sheets (which he probably is), very proud, very cocky, no intentions of getting a job… he is a gold digger!

If your spouse has such characteristics… beware!!!.

By Dami Elebe

This column is about advice on relationships, answering  questions pertaining to relationships , and telling you about the issues that keep or break a relationship. This covers friends, to friends with benefits, to relationships, to engagements, to marriage, to preventing divorces, or helping you get back into the market after a divorce. This column is the weekly guide to love. It is the relationship advice from the heart and the head. This is your own little love corner; this is heart2 heart.